Relationships are a tricky dynamic to uphold. Whether familial, platonic, or romantic, each successful relationship depends on how much each person contributes to it. At one point, you have to step back and analyze such situations because they can be very toxic. If you find yourself in one (or more) of the following situations, it’s time to burn that bridge.
1. YOU’RE ALWAYS THERE FOR THEM BUT THEY’RE NEVER THERE FOR YOU. Suppose your “friend” is constantly calling you when they need a favor, and you, being the good friend, always put on pants and come to their rescue. When roles are reversed, your supposed buddy is always “busy” doing something else. Relationships are all about give and take, so when they take and take, it’s time to stop giving. It’s okay to be a little demanding in your relationships.
2. THEY’RE ALWAYS TALKING ABOUT THEMSELVES. The next time you talk, count how many times they talk about themselves. Do they ask about you at all? Do they listen when you speak? Is the conversation balanced or do they monopolize the conversation? These are indicators of one-sided relationships (and narcissism).
3. THEY ALWAYS ACCEPT YOUR GIFTS BUT NEVER RETURN THE SENTIMENT. They’re constantly forgetting your birthday or not getting you anything for the holidays despite the fact that they should definitely know by now. It’s not selfish to want to feel appreciated, especially if you’re always thinking of them.
4. YOU’RE ALWAYS THEIR LAST CHOICE. If you know what it’s like to be picked last in gym class, you know that it sucks. When someone who’s actually supposed to care about you makes you feel like that, you need to let them go. It’s not fair to you. You don’t want to be anyone’s second choice, let alone someone’s last.